Bad Mom(s)… OR (Yet Another Post about) Mommy Guilt… Or Screen Time…

Mommy guilt… I find myself reading AND hearing about it (and sometimes experiencing it) all the time… Maybe that’s because I can’t help myself from clicking on almost every parenting-related post I see… Maybe that’s because I watched the trailer for “Bad Moms” twice last night….Maybe it’s because parenting is a job that comes without a rule book… A job that is important and hard… A job that everyone seems to have an opinion on…maybe it’s because no one wants to admit their (perceived or not) shortcomings as a parent…

I doubt myself all the time. I don’t know if I’m doing this whole parenting thing right. I’m certainly not doing it perfectly…

And, you know what, I’m OK with that. I don’t think it’s a bad thing…

In fact, I might argue that doubt can be a good thing. (For the record, I’m talking about self-doubt here…  Not about guilt brought on by unwanted advice or judgement)…

We (self) doubt and feel guilt because we care, because we want our child to succeed, to thrive…because we want to do right by him or her…because none of us really knows how to be a “perfect parent.” (Of course, we also largely doubt and experience guilt because of societal pressure– but that’s a whole other post– just stick with me here…)

This morning, I felt some guilt… I was planning to go to storytime with Addie at the library…(and we all know books = “Good Mom”)…

But we had a rough night…for some reason- Addie was up talking and playing in her room from ~11-3… And I was up with heartburn up to my eyeballs and hourly trips to the rest room…

Let’s put it this way–neither of us were well-rested or chipper this morning…

So instead of going to the library…which would have either been a great time out of the house OR more likely a disaster waiting to happen, I decided to stay at home and take it easy…

And I felt a little bad about that… Especially because I knew that “taking it easy” would mean that we would spend at least a little time on the couch watching “Curious George.” (Now I’m not anti-TV at all…I love TV… BUT TV does cause me some doubt, some guilt… I worry about the amount of TV we watch– is it too much? What’s normal? Is it bad that she loves it?)

But, you know what? Our TV time today was GLORIOUS. It was perfect. It was guilt-free. 

It was just what we both needed. 

We snuggled and rested and at one point Addie even leaned over and gave me a sweet unexpected kiss… 

And with the impending arrival of Baby Boy B… Who knows how much more time we’ll have to just cuddle as a twosome…

So I guess my point is- sometimes you  have to let go of the guilt… To do what’s best for you… To be a “Bad Mom”…

And today, what was best for us was spending a little time vegging out together…in front of the TV. 

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